I'm Invisible
(For all you moms out there...this is worth reading!)
I'm InvisibleIt all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response,the way one of the kids will walk into the room while I'm on the phone and ask to be taken to the store.Inside I'm thinking, 'Can't you see I'm on the phone?' Obviously not;no one can see if I'm on the phone,or cooking, or sweeping the floor, or even standing on my head in the corner,because no one can see me atall. I'm invisible. The invisible Mom.Some days I am only a pair of hands, nothing more: Can you fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this?Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even a human being. I'm aclock to ask, 'What time is it?' I'm a satellite guide to answer, 'What number is the Disney Channel?' I'm a car to order, 'Right around 5:30, please.'I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes that studied history and the mind that graduated summa cum laude- but now they had disappeared into the peanut butter, never to be seen again. She's going, she's going, she's gone!One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return ofa friend from England . Janice had just gotten back from a fabuloustrip, and she was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there, looking around at the others all put together so well.It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself as I looked downat my out-of-style dress; it was the only thing I could find that was clean. M y unwashed hair was pulled up in a hair clip and I was afraidI could actually smell peanut butter in it.I was feeling pretty pathetic, when Janice turned to me with abeautifully wrapped package, and said, 'I brought you this. ' It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europ e . I wasn't exactly sure whyshe'd given it to me until I read her inscription: 'To Charlotte , withadmiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees.' In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - the book. And I woulddiscover what would become for me, four life-changing truths, afterwhich I could pattern my work:No one can say who built the great cathedrals - we have no record of their names. These builders gave their whole lives for a work theywould never see finished. They made great sacrifices and expected nocredit. The passion of their building was fueled by their faith thatthe eyes of God saw everything. A legendary story in the book told of a rich man who came to visit thecathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving atiny bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man,'Why are y ou spending so much time carving that bird into a beam thatwill be covered by the roof? No one will ever see it.'And the workman replied, 'Because God sees.' I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It wasalmost as if I heard God whispering to me, 'I see you, Charlotte. Isee the sacrifices you make every day, even when no one around you does.No act of kindness you've done, no sequin yo u've sewn on, no cupcake you've baked, is too small for me to notice and smile over.You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see right now what it will become.'At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction.But it is not a disease that is erasing my life. It is the cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness. It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride. I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. As one of the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished, to work on something that their name will never be on. The writer of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime, because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that degree.When I reallly think about it, I don't want my son to tell the friend he's bringing home from college for Thanksgiving, 'My mom gets up at 4 in the morning and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for three hours and dresses all the linens for the table.'That would mean I'd built a shrine or a monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home. And then, if there is anything more to say to his friend, to add, 'You're gonna love it there.'As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're doing it right. And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we have built, but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible women.Great Job, MOM!
